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How Not To Get Into a Fight With a Russian Woman
If you’ve ever dated a Russian woman before, you probably already know by now that you don’t want to get on her bad side. That goes for most women in general.
Usually, most men in relationships try to exert a significant amount of effort in preventing a useless, pointless argument from occurring.
With Russian women, in particular, it’s relatively easy to bump into a misunderstanding based on a miscommunication — one that stems from the language barrier or the difference in culture.
Something that you do might be acceptable in your culture but is offensive in theirs, or vice versa.
Fighting with your lover is a normal part of the relationship dynamic. If you think about it, any two humans, regardless of what their relationship is with each other, will eventually bump heads or disagree on something somewhere along the line.
By virtue of being individual human beings with our own attitudes, beliefs, mindsets, and values, these things won’t always correspond with that of our partners, friends, lovers, or wives. When two people are alone together for long enough (or hang out often enough), it’s bound to happen whether they like it or not.
This could be even more of an issue when the two of you are from different cultures and speak different languages, as the chances of having a misunderstanding could be potentially higher if one is not careful.
But this doesn’t mean you should stray away from dating Russian women. In no way do we discourage interracial or intercultural relationships — in fact, we wholeheartedly support and advocate for them.
However, it’s important to remember that the risk of arguments will always exist, and a lack of understanding of each other’s cultures may be the main cause of this issue, on top of other various factors at play.
Russian women tend to be down-to-earth people with generally calm demeanors, but you’ll still get into an argument with one if you offend her or do something insensitive towards her. Usually, that’s just the way it is with all women in general.
Remember — constant nagging and criticizing makes for a toxic, unhealthy environment that’s always on edge, just waiting to tip over into a full-fledged, emotionally-draining conflict that pits you two against each other.
Now, who in the world would want that? Sure, there are some highly dysfunctional people out there who thrive on negativity and actively seek out arguments. But, most of the time, the average human being in a normal mental state would rather not be involved in that unnecessary predicament.
Most of the time, your Russian lover will not actively seek out an argument with you unless you offend her first, or unless she has an underlying mental illness of some sort.
Constant, chronic, and repeated arguing isn’t normal or healthy. It’s a sign of incompatibility, toxicity, the inability to lower one’s pride, and a love-hate relationship that drags people into oblivion. Oftentimes, it’s a clear indicator of some form of mental illness.
If you’ve ever heard Rihanna and Eminem’s song “Love the Way You Lie,” it’s exactly that. If you’ve seen the music video, that’s how chaotic and distasteful it can be in real life. It’s literally hell.
Some people tend to glorify emotional abuse and “enjoying pain” because they’re either self-proclaimed masochists or they’re fetishizing mental illness and the capacity to take pleasure in emotional trauma as if it were glamorous, cool, trendy, or edgy.
Reality check: It’s not cool, and it’s not something to be proud of.
On the other hand, we aren’t shaming people who have this mental illness.
Some might argue that this form of representation in media is a healthy, destigmatizing portrayal of real-life issues that are taboo in nature, opening up a societal shift in attitude towards coming forward and handling mental health issues.
However, if you’re constantly fighting with your Russian love interest, then that means there are some problems that you two need to urgently address.
To avoid these kinds of arguments, you’ll need to remember the following tips:
Practice chivalry.
These women pay close attention to detail. If you don’t practice basic table etiquette, open doors for them, or say please and thank you, they will notice, and they might call you out on that.
Much of their culture is anchored in respect and chivalry. Being a gentleman and knowing how to treat your girl with compassion and mindfulness are vital necessities when dating Russian women, and to avoid arguing with one, practice this at all times.
Another aspect of Russian dating culture that’s interrelated with chivalry is the act of…
Paying the bill when you two are out.
It’s innately ingrained in Russian culture for men to front the bill when they’re dating a Russian girl — and that’ll include everything from restaurant bills, bar fees, movie tickets, transportation, accommodations — you name it.
This is the way it is due to the cultural background and significance of certain family dynamics that Russians have practiced for generations. In their culture, they view men as providers — basically the main breadwinners of the household, while women take on household duties, birth-giving, and raising children.
Modern Russian women tend to be more diverse with their perceptions of traditional gender roles now that society is more progressive, but they still believe that men should front the bill.
If you don’t, they’ll probably take offense. Even worse, if you ask them to split it with you or you ask them to cover it entirely, you might as well say goodbye to your chances of getting them to take an interest in you. You must have cash or credit on hand when dating a Russian lady.
Lastly, one of the most important ones to remember is…
Don’t rush her when she’s getting ready.
Like Latina women, Russian ladies tend to take a little longer to get ready, since they almost never leave the house without looking like a million bucks. Usually, they never dress down, no matter what the occasion is.
Understand that you’ll probably be fashionably late to the function, but under no circumstances should you rush these women. They could potentially get very, very upset. These women take pride in their appearance and dedicate time to looking good.
Allow her to. Appreciate her effort in this regard and give her time to get ready. If you rush her, well, you probably already know what comes next. Prepare for an argument, or be smart and avoid one in the first place.
Trust us, it will be worth the wait.
These are just a handful of tips to take note of if you want to avoid getting into a fight with a Russian woman. If you think about it, they’re all basic tips to keep in mind anyway whenever you want to win over someone you’re genuinely interested in.
The one thing to consider, however, is that culture makes all the difference. So stay informed by doing your research. With the right mindset and attitude, you’ll find that trying to win the heart of your Russian love interest isn’t so hard after all.
We hope these tips resonate with whoever needs to hear them. After all, nobody likes arguments. We wish you all the best of luck. Stay safe and happy dating!
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