DATING ADVICE
How to Attract Russian Women WITHOUT Raising Red Flags
There’s a stereotype that all Russian women are beautiful. From all the beautiful femme fatales of Cold War spy movies to contemporary supermodels from former Soviet Bloc countries, that stereotype seems somewhat justified.
Because of that stereotype, men all over the world figure that what they really want is to have a Russian girlfriend. But the thing is that a lot of those men don’t really have the first clue of how to attract Russian women without waving so many red flags that they sabotage whatever chances they have before even getting close.
A lot of men in general don’t know how to pursue women without sabotaging themselves. But special care has to be taken when pursuing Russian women because they’re not usually the kind of women who’ll just ignore red flags.
They Attract, But They Don’t Chase
If you’re a beautiful woman, then you’re not going to be a stranger to attention from potential suitors. It’s just one of those things that’s endemic to life — the more attractive you are, the more people are attracted to you and beautiful Russian women know this all too well. They’ve probably got a lot of suitors, many of whom probably give up after seeing their competition.
But here’s the thing: a lot of Russian women like being chased. So if you are pursuing a Russian woman, be somewhat persistent. Don’t be creepy about it, but do present yourself as a romantic option that she can have. A Russian woman isn’t going to have any romantic interest in you if she doesn’t think you have any romantic interest in her.
Parental Neglect
Russia, as a society, is very family-centric. It’s not unusual for unmarried adults, or even some married ones, to still live with their parents whereas many Americans move out at 18 or so. So you could say that family’s pretty important to a lot of Russian women.
Which means that a guy who does not treat his parents well isn’t someone that’s going to be very attractive to a woman from Russia. So if your parents are still in your life, then you need to appear to treat them well so you don’t raise that particular red flag.
Not For Sale
There are some guys that think that having money means that they can get any woman that they want. To a certain extent, they’re right. There are women out there who are more than capable of substituting physical attraction or emotional fulfilment for material gain.
But there are a lot of Russian women for whom that’s not going to be the case. Sure, they wouldn’t mind having a wealthy partner. Who wouldn’t want a wealthy partner? It’s just that wealth alone isn’t always going to be enough for them. A guy needs to have a personality beyond simply having money and if he doesn’t, that’s a pretty red flag.
So if you happen to have a significant chunk of change, don’t make it your whole personality. Be an actual person and not just a caricature from a music video. Sure, you can be a little flashy or even a lot flashy, but you also have to have some substance behind all that flash.
Consistency Is Key
People contain multitudes. There are different facets to their personalities. Some people can contain so many multitudes that they can appear to have more than one personality. But being consistent in the way you present yourself to women, and not just the Russian ones, is a pretty good way to pursue them.
You can’t just go from hot to cold at the drop of a hat. You can’t be all lovey-dovey to the point of being a stage five clinger one moment and cold and distant the next. That’s going to confuse a lot of women and those kinds of mood swings are flags that are so red that it’d make blood blanch in comparison.
Fix Your Mistakes
Russian women are not the type of people who are going to suffer fools gladly. If the men that they’re with mess up, then they’re not going to be shy about voicing their opinion on how he messed up and they’re going to expect amends and apologies.
A man who doesn’t acknowledge his mistakes or work to fix them is not going to be attractive to Russian women. But a man who can acknowledge and fix the things he does wrong? Well, that shows that he can be caring and is willing to put in the work that he needs to put in to become a better person. In Russia, men are expected to be masculine and part of that masculinity is being to fix things when they break. Doesn’t matter if it’s a fridge or something a little less corporeal.
Compliment Her The Right Way
There’s a time and place to call a woman sexy and that’s when there’s some intimacy already built up between the two of you or in a professional setting where sexiness is a valid criteria for doing the job. But in general, you don’t compliment a woman by calling her sexy, especially not a Russian one because it’s kind of sleazy.
The right way to approach a Russian woman with a compliment is be specific, like maybe she has kind eyes or something of that note. Approaching with sincerity is going to go over a lot better with Russian women than sleaze is.
There are a lot of things that Russian women like in the men who court them; sincerity, charisma, level-headedness. There are also a lot of the things that they don’t like, things that when they see them, they turn on their heel and walk in the opposite direction away from that man and all his red flags.
So, if you do have these red flags, it’s best to address them or at least try to get as much of the red out as possible.
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